Monthly Archives: November 2007

What Is It About Me and Gifts?

I seem to have an incredible knack for upsetting my loved ones when it comes to gifts for special occasions.

I was away in the army when I turned 21, on patrol in Angola to be specific, and two of my comrades gave me gifts of a can of warm beer and a pack of cigarettes. I had been wanting to get myself a nice watch for some time and when I came home on leave, one of the first things I did was go and buy myself one. I couldn’t afford the Seiko I wanted but settled on a nice Pulsar, that I still wear today. When I got home from the shop I showed it to my late mother, thinking she would be pleased at my purchase. Her reaction was quite the opposite; she became angry at me, saying she was going to buy me a watch as a 21st gift, and that I should have realised that. She seemed to think that I had done it deliberately to spite her and responded by giving me no 21st birthday gift at all.

Over the years since then I have on several occasions upset Mela; sometimes by buying myself something only to find that she had already bought it for me as a gift for an upcoming birthday or Christmas; other times by not immediately using a gift she gave me. This was the case last year when she bought me a lovely new wallet. I put it away for the day when my current wallet wore to the point of needing replacement. Mela, thinking I didn’t like her gift, became upset. I explained that, in general, men are not like women who will happily use more than one of the same item, alternating between them from time to time. Most men on the other hand prefer to use a single item until it wears out before starting to use another. This was the case with the wallet. I have lately been eyeing the corner of my current wallet that is starting to tear and thinking that I will soon start using the one Mela gave me.

The latest upset happened today when I bought myself a Fisher Space Pen, something I’ve been wanting to get for a long time. I showed it to Mela when I got home and she became upset as she had already bought one last month as my Christmas gift. Now Mela is upset because I ruined her surprise and I’m sad because I’m reminded of the 21st birthday watch incident. Sometimes I wonder if it is safe to buy myself anything without checking with my family first, but then it would have been difficult for Mela to keep her secret while preventing me from buying the pen if I had mentioned my plan to purchase it. But in any case, I am sorry I spoiled your surprise my love.

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Black Widow

Black Widow

This Mirage IIICZ interceptor is the last of its kind still flying and belongs to the South African Air Force museum.

Defensive Measures

Defensive Measures

An Oryx of the South African Air Force fires off flares during a demonstration at an airshow. These flares are a defensive measure; acting as decoys to draw heat-seeking missiles away from the aircraft.

Abandoned Boot

Abandoned Boot

Grey Day

Grey Day

I took this on a grey wintry day back in June. This is the Atlantic ocean off Sea Point in Cape Town.

Misty Morning Fogbow

Misty Morning Rainbow

I was out before sunrise but it was a misty morning and the sunrise was not visible so I spent some time taking close-up shots of rocks in the mist. As I walked back up the beach the mist started to clear and this rainbow, or fogbow; as white rainbows are known, appeared. I was fortunate that my 10mm lens was wide enough to capture both ends.

This is the rainbow/fogbow mentioned in my previous post.

Misty Morn

Misty Morn

I took this shot at Paternoster around sunrise.  I was initially disappointed that it was misty but in the end it worked out as I got this shot and one of an impressive rainbow, or fog bow, as I’m told this kind is called.